Up early, on the train to see my parents, saturday morning, posting after ages since I last posted, and today it’s the 16th anniversary of my defence, bringing memories back to me, and a sort of need to draw a balance (dangerous, I know!!!). But ok, let’s go with order:
-) I have been reading your posts every day, so am up-to-date about everything that’s been going on (fingers crossed for Calypte and Wren, hope all goes smoothly). The reason I have been unable to post here has something to do with New Year Resolution. I decided to drastically limit my time on checking internet and social stuff. And I figured out (for once!) a simple way to achieve that: I would only access social stuff on internet from my smartphone. Typing is a pain from there, and basically I stopped every kind of interaction. Yes, I know that turned out to be a bit TOO effective. I even started checking my work mail from my phone, and have satisfactorily cut my time dealing with it a great deal. Most things I don’t answer, and when I do, typing from my phone is such a nuisance that my emails turn out super synthetic. But I miss you and have been thinking how to find a better balance that allows me to post here, maybe from my pc in the evenings (it disrupts my morning if I start with the internet first). Or maybe from my phone (bookmarking this page, looking for the password, and managing to keep things short, which I am obviously not good at when I post here, aehm! etc.) So I hope you forgive me, have been thinking of you a lot.
-) small update about me: WORK-I finished my 2 courses in January and the past month I haven’t been as productive as I would have liked. I’m still in transition mode from the teaching-period. February is exam month, so that justifies the transition, but just a bit. I need to be able to focus more on my writing and seriously implement the “write first thing in the morning”. My book is still a big mess and it frightens me just to think at it. PERSONAL LIFE-my husband made me understand that this split life of me being mostly in worktown and seldom in hometown isn’t making him happy. To be honest it suits me rather well. I too miss him, of course, but being such a heartless woman focused as I am on my work …, he is the romantic one of the 2, I tend to like having such clear boundaries. Truth is I have never managed to work well from the hometown flat. I suddenly tend to transform myself in an housewife, worry all morning long what I’m going to cook him for lunch when he comes home, it feels so weird, that’s not who I am! I think I have come to rely on the split between the 2 households/towns because my inner boundaries aren’t clear enough. Not sure how to transition from where I am now and build better inner boundaries, but I promised him I will try to work from home, and he promised me all the support and help and collaboration I need. That is fine, or it would be fine, if I knew what to ask him. I made it clear that even if I am working from home, I am working just as he is working. So he shouldn’t expect me to welcome him with lunch ready the moment he sets foot at home. And he doesn’t!!! It’s just me getting all distracted by the thought: oh, I’d like to surprise him with something nice for lunch. I see it’s just a problem of my perspective. I think I might go to work at the local library when I am in worktown…
-) 16th Anniversary of my defence, it’s a long time. The balance is mostly positive, I’d say. I’m associate professor, currently in the middle of a fight with a colleague, but at least I learned how to fight, and it is definitely an aspect one must learn how to handle in this odd environment of academia. I manage to fight without getting in any way upset anymore. Such a progress, compared to how it started out. To me now it’s like swordmanship, just a technique to master, with some surprise moves to basically make life less boring in a workplace where people are always the same and there must be some change once in a while. It’s totally dispassionate. I used to get very upset, but I grew to see it’s not personal. In the end one rather values more the colleagues with whom one fights… it’s a sort of earned honour, a very tribal/primal mechanism I am sure.
-) Going to see my parents, they are reasonably well. I have some work with me, but basically am looking forward to enjoying the weekend with them.
-) Stationery update: I have been considering using a Passion planner or a Volt+Ink planner to figure out long term goals and record my steps and progress. I don’t like the idea of having them shipped all the way from the US, seems such a waste, environmentally speaking. So I have the pdf of both. Need to decide which to print out and whether to merge the 2 of them. Any of you heard of them or used them? Well, it all started with me looking at the Living well planner, but that isn’t too portable and something made me understand it’s basically aimed for moms and Christians, 2 things I am not, so that was easy to exclude from the selection of the ideal planner…
-) Last but not least: book recommendation + quiz! Lately I have been reading Michael Breus, The Power of When. I know I already had been writing about this book, but hadn’t actually bought and read it, only skimmed thorugh it on amazon preview. It’s about chronotypes and figuring out what routine is the most effective for you. It has been a very impressive reading because he quotes a lot of scientific research. Here’s the quiz, in case you missed it the other time. The reason I am reading it now is because I have the possibility to change the schedule of my 2 courses next year, and backing my decision with some scientific research feels reassuring to me.