Having been working on this slowly over the past couple of weeks, I wrote a lot today and basically got the whole thing done – at least in terms of where I hope I’ll be in ten years’ time.
I’ve learned four very important things so far:
1) that life is a lot longer than I thought! And I don’t have to achieve everything in the next ten, or even two, years – there will still be time later in life to learn and do a great load of stuff. It’s not like I have to start working on everything right now, or that I have to get to a certain point so I can Sit On My Arse in optimal conditions!
2) I want to enjoy the journey. So when I’m looking at where I want to be, or what I want to have achieved, I’m asking myself am I actually going to enjoy the process of doing that?! If not then I often find that those are someone else’s dreams, not mine – and that’s what got me into this state and off my own track. I want to do things that I’m going to love doing 90% of the time, and make those mine.
3) A large portion of the visualisation part of this exercise has to do with very basic things like family, friends, and hospitality – and having a lovely, happy, and perpetually welcoming home is a massive part of my vision. I was surprised how virtually ALL of my material wants revolve around this concept of having a secure, brilliant and inspiring living environment that nurtures not just me, but my friends and family – I had no idea that would be so important. Beyond that, I only want money in order to learn things, and go places – for experiences, but not things.
4) The single most important thing for the immediate future (and definitely to be accomplished in the next ten years) is for me to find a way to financial security that involves doing something I love. I guess that’s not really a surprise – and I’ve known that and been planning for it for a while already. All the other things can only happen once I’ve achieved that. A lot of the other things can still happen if I don’t – if I’m prepared to stay in the office and work my way up the career ladder, I can probably have some version of the home/family/learning/travels combination that I want. But in the spirit of enjoying the journey, I think that would be a squandering of the next thirty years. I want do what I love, as much of the time as possible, and love what I do, in a vocational sense. So that is Issue Number One to solve and the foundation for everything else.
There is a lot more detail than that but basically the clarity I’ve found is just huge. I know what I want, I know what order things need to happen in, and where my efforts need to be focused. So for the remainder of this month I’m going to have a think about what needs to happen for Issue Number One to be resolved, and hopefully that’ll give me my plan for the short- to mid-term.